Part 1 . Marriage Purpose
The entire premise of marriage is revealed in the words of YAH ELOHIM in Genesis 2
And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.
(KJV) – King James Version (KJV)
And Jehovah Elohim said, It is not good that Man should be alone; I will make him a helpmate, his like.
(Darby) – Darby Translation (DBY)
Proper observance of the Divine intent with the correct aim is
* that a man and woman should love each other as their own being,
* respect each other more than our own self,
* be compassionate with each other,
* watch over each other , as a person would watch over one of his own limbs,
* she should love him, and he should love her , for she was taken from his side.
To quote Matthew Henry :
“The woman was made of a rib out of the side of Adam;
not made out of his head to rule over him,
nor out of his feet to be trampled upon by him,
but out of his side to be equal with him,
under his arm to be protected,
and near his heart to be beloved.
Our relationship as husband and wife is reflective of the relationship we construct with God
That is why the Creator commanded adam (male /female) in regards to each other ,
that we should never diminish the marital relations
which must include joy , intimacy , selflessness ,
and the basic provision of food , clothing , and shelter .
Anything short of this …. is sin .
Sin is , at the most primitive level , to simply ” miss the mark “
The primary cause of ” missing the mark ” is improper AIM
As “child abuse” is a crime against the holy nation,
“marital abuse” is also a crime against the holy nation
because it is criminal violation against YAH , family , and humanity .
Marital abuse is not only physical but verbal, emotional, and mental abuse
are in this category as well.
The dynamic , or power of marriage is companionship .
Physical relationship alone is animalistic.
Human beings need intimacy, an exclusive, warm, personal relationship of care and concern.
As there is a “oneness of flesh,” there must also be a “oneness of soul” and “oneness of spirit”
“I love you not only for what you are, but for what I am when I am with you.
I love you not only for what you have made of yourself, but for what you are making of me.
I love you for the part of me that you bring out.”
Man being by himself was incomplete because he did not have a companion.
YAH ELOHIM then gives the purpose of woman in stating
He would create for man a “help meet.”
The words “help meet” can be properly translated, “suitable helper.”
It literally means “a helper like man.”
The Hebrew word is “ezer”, and means “help, support, or helper.”
The Theological Word Book of the Old Testament states.
“While this word designates assistance, it is more frequently used in a concrete sense
to designate the assistant.”
(2) We can conclude that woman was created as man’s counterpart and his assistant.
Woman is man’s co-helper for life , as is man , woman’s co-helper for life .
Man without woman , or woman without man , cannot engender life .
The word helper is not a demeaning term.
It is used in reference to God in Psalm 33:20, 70:5, 115:9.(3)
The term denotes purpose.
Woman was created to assist man in life and for life.
The Holy Spirit is our comforter , assistant , strengthener , advocate , etc .
Mankind without Holy Spirit cannot engender spirit life . That which is born of spirit is spirit .
Marriage is realized or given substance in three dimensions .
1. Spiritual = spirit to spirit
2. Psychological = mind to mind
3. Physiological = body to body
Marriage in all three dimensions have certain common factors that define “marriage”
This is not meant to be an exhaustive compilation , but is at least a fundamental definition .