Marriage Part 3


Part 3

We described previously in Part 2 of this series two types of marriage .

1. Contract
2. Covenant

I want to take a closer look at the distinctions between the two .

  • A covenant is everlasting ( meaning indefinite in time period )with no appointed end-time,
    with the mutual understanding  ” for as long as”  and  “until”   signifies there may be an end
    which is dependent upon both parties keeping , guarding , preserving their vows .
    The covenant then stands for  “as long as the relationship is maintained intact  …..
  • A solemn agreement or promise, sometimes confirmed by sacrifice or by sharing  ,
    e.g. – the exchange of rings , by which two or more parties commit themselves ,
    to the rights and responsibilities afforded by their relationship ,
    and their agreed upon , course of action,
    and to accept the serious consequences of breaking faith.

It is important to understand that covenants and contracts come with conditions .

This is an important fact that serves to define a covenant , and or , a contract.

Contracts, by their very definition, come with conditions
both to “create obligation”  and to “govern the outcome”  of the contract ,
and is  ” put in writing to bind the parties together ” .

The focus is based on the legal demands placed upon either and or both parties .

Covenants are based upon , and focus upon the  relationship
Covenants are made because the involved parties desire the relationship.

The pledge or vow is made in good faith and  upheld   in faithfulness .
That should not be mis-understood to mean a covenant doesn’t have conditions ,
but rather the focus in covenant is on the desire of the parties to remain in covenant .

I want to stay within the context of this series and focus on the marriage .
I will have another series following … that will deal with Covenants in general and in specific .

So , with that being said , let’s take a look in respect to marriage of adam ( male and female ) .
This we will do , in order for us , to lay a foundation ,
which will provide for us unshakeable ground ,
upon which , we can stand before YAHoVAH with confidence
and without condemnation .

Marriage is , in a very simple definition ,

  1. the state of two being joined into one ,
  2. the state of two being joined as one .

Let’s look a little closer …

  •   state
    1. the condition of a person, thing, etc, with regard to main attributes
    2. the structure, form, or constitution of something
    3. course or way of existence
    4. position in life
    5. domain or function of power
  •   two
    1. one and one
  • being
    1. becoming
    2. progressive present tense

      • expresses intention, expectation, supposition, or obligation
  • joined
    1. to come or bring together; connect
    2. to become a member
    3. to become a part of
    4. take a place in or with
    5. to unite

      • connect
      • link
      • couple
      • tie
  •   into  one
    1. transformation or change
  •   as   one
    1. in the role of  being
      • under the name of
      • in the character of 

We see now upon closer examination , there is much more to ” marriage ” than meets the eye .

My judgement of marriage , based upon the evidence presented so far , is as follows :

  • Marriage is an “everlasting” covenant
    • Everlasting in the bible sense of the Hebrew word Olam
      1. “long-lasting” is a fitting English translation for olam.
        • lasting as long as it lasts … “ever-lasting” = ”  long-lasting “.
          This is an indefinite period based on conditions of fulfillment .
  •  Marriage is in two dimensions  –  one in Heaven and one in Earth .

Marriage pattern on earth is the shadow of the Marriage reality in heaven .
The pattern always falls short of the reality .
For those who may have a problem accepting the pattern falling short of the reality ,
I suggest you take a picture of your automobile , and drive it to the market ….
Of course that’s absurd isn’t it  ?

Part 4 will discuss the reality of the marriage made in heaven , and a closer look at the definitions of marriage .

Shalom Chaverim




Marriage – Part 2

Part 2 .
Marriage Types
Contractual and Covenant Marriages
The differences
Contract:  I take  thee for me.
Covenant: I give  myself to thee.
Contract: You have to do
Covenant: How may we be
Contract: What do I get ?
Covenant: What can I give ?
Contract: I’ll meet you halfway.
Covenant: I’ll give you 100% plus.
Contract:  I have to
Covenant: I want to
A covenant marriage is intended by God to be a lifelong relationship exemplifying
  •  selfless love,
  • reconciliation,
  • sexual purity,
  • maturity
  • faithfulness
Covenants bear the fruit of a loving, faithful relationship.
The vows we exchange at our wedding reflect a relationship
set within the bonds of steadfast love and faithfulness.
The degree to which these words have value
is in direct proportion to the unselfish love
that dwells within our heart for the one
to whom we are repeating them.
Covenant partners take responsibility for their actions.
As partners in a covenant marriage relationship,
We are responsible for  our own  actions.
When we act selfishly irresponsible , going our own way ,
we are no longer in covenant , we are separated unto our self .
Covenants are based on freedom of choice.
Covenant marriages are not built on coercion, deceit, and domination .
Surrendering ourselves to another in love .
Surrender is freely given and grows from respect, not fear and manipulation.
We choose daily to love “as Christ loves the church.”
We must freely choose to love and honor covenant
in spite of  “feeling or not feeling”  like loving and honoring .
Covenants are rooted in actions based on choices, not feelings.
Our feelings are forever fluctuating.
Therefore to build a marriage on feelings is to build it on shifting sand,
which is unable to support the foundation of covenant marriage ,
rooted and grounded in love .
Covenant partners nurture , feed , and mature their relationship.
Covenant marriage will live and grow as we build up one another in love.
This takes place when we value our spouse more than ourselves.
As we experience the unselfish love of Jesus Christ, we are able to love  as He loves us
Covenant partners administer unselfish love, forgiveness, and reconciliation
while providing comfort and truth to their partner.
Covenants are based on commitments freely offered.
Covenant is built on selfless love, freely given and freely received.
As strange as it may sound ,
a covenant marriage is one in which the
“tie that binds the couple together “…
is a commitment freely offered with no strings attached.
YAHushua does have a marriage plan .
He desires to see our love grow and bear fruit.
The goal of a covenant marriage is not to merely enjoy each other’s company
nor is it to simply endure to the end.
The goal of a covenant marriage
is to glorify God in our relationship
and to exemplify our marriage in Christ to the world.
Covenant marriage by definition
must consist of two willing partners walking together in agreement .
Where there is the absence of this … there is in reality no covenant .
Those who have read this ,
and would like to continue the exploration ,
I give you fair warning .
Much of what is to follow may , or may not ,
fit in with certain dogma , or doctrine .
Proceed at your own risk with focused attention and an open heart .
John , the baptizer of YAHushua  , was beheaded
and his head carried into Herod’s court
for the matters that are now laid open before you .
I expect no less from Herod’s court today .
Shalom Chaverim = Peace upon you friends
Baruch Ha Mashiyach = Blessings of the Messiah
YAHushua = Jesus

Marriage – Part 1

Part 1 .   Marriage Purpose
The entire premise of marriage is revealed in the words of YAH ELOHIM in Genesis 2
Gen 2:18
And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.
(KJV) – King James Version (KJV)
And Jehovah Elohim said, It is not good that Man should be alone; I will make him a helpmate, his like. 
(Darby) – Darby Translation (DBY)
Proper observance of the Divine intent with the correct aim is
* that a man and woman should love each other as their own being,
* respect each other more than our own self,
* be compassionate with each other,
* watch over each other , as a person would watch over one of his own limbs,
* she should love him, and he should love her , for she was taken from his side.
To quote Matthew Henry :
“The woman was made of a rib out of the side of Adam;
not made out of his head to rule over him,
nor out of his feet to be trampled upon by him,
but out of his side to be equal with him,
under his arm to be protected,
and near his heart to be beloved.
Our relationship as husband and wife is reflective of the relationship we construct with God
That is why the Creator commanded adam (male /female) in regards to each other ,
that we should never diminish the marital relations
which must include joy , intimacy , selflessness ,
and the basic provision of food , clothing , and shelter .
Anything short of this …. is sin .
Sin is , at the most primitive level , to simply  ” miss the mark “
The primary cause of  ” missing the mark ” is improper AIM
As “child abuse” is a crime against the holy nation,
“marital abuse” is also a crime against the holy nation
because it is criminal violation against YAH , family , and humanity .
Marital abuse is not only physical but verbal, emotional, and mental abuse
are in this category as well.
The dynamic , or power of marriage is companionship .
Physical relationship alone is animalistic.
Human beings need intimacy, an exclusive, warm, personal relationship of care and concern.
As there is a “oneness of flesh,” there must also be a “oneness of soul” and “oneness of spirit”
“I love you not only for what you are, but for what I am when I am with you.
I love you not only for what you have made of yourself, but for what you are making of me.
I love you for the part of me that you bring out.”
Man being by himself was incomplete because he did not have a companion.
YAH ELOHIM then gives the purpose of woman in stating
He would create for man a “help meet.”
The words “help meet” can be properly translated, “suitable helper.”
It literally means “a helper like man.”
The Hebrew word is “ezer”, and means “help, support, or helper.”
The Theological Word Book of the Old Testament states.
“While this word designates assistance, it is more frequently used in a concrete sense
to designate the assistant.”
(2) We can conclude that woman was created as man’s counterpart and his assistant.
Woman is man’s co-helper for life , as is man , woman’s co-helper for life .
Man without woman , or woman without man , cannot engender life .
        The word helper is not a demeaning term.
It is used in reference to God in Psalm 33:20, 70:5, 115:9.(3)
The term denotes purpose.
Woman was created to assist man in life and for life.
The Holy Spirit is our comforter , assistant , strengthener , advocate , etc .
Mankind without Holy Spirit cannot engender spirit life . That which is born of spirit is spirit .
Marriage is realized or given substance in three dimensions .
1. Spiritual  = spirit to spirit
2. Psychological  = mind to mind
3. Physiological  = body to body
Marriage in all three dimensions have certain common factors that define “marriage”
1. Consent
2. Agreement
3. Union
4. Intimacy
5. Bonding
6. Complementation
This is not meant to be an exhaustive compilation , but is at least a fundamental definition .

Baptisms – Immersions


By Randy Back on Thursday, May 15, 2014 at 5:55am

 Baptisms / Immersions / Purifications


I thought baptism was particularly —  “new testament” — doctrine .
The author of Hebrews spoke of a doctrine of baptisms (Heb 6:2),
ie. Christian initiations, which were depicted as being quite elementary (ABC’s)
in comparison to the things he wished he could teach them.
And yet in our day and hour these basic truths are rarely understood, if at all.

Baptisms / Immersions / Purifications


Part 1

I begin this with my position towards bible interpretation of truth .
The new testament ” reveals ” what the old testament ” concealed ”
Biblical principles are always established first in some manner in Torah.
It might be a specific command by God that later is brought out in its totality
in the life and teachings of YAHushua.
Or it might be in a historical event that foreshadows a fulfillment later on.

Mat 13:52

Then said he unto them,
Therefore every scribe which is instructed unto the kingdom of heaven
is like unto a man that is an householder,
which bringeth forth out of his treasure things new and old.Baptism is Jewish

Not everyone knows the Jewish cultural background of baptism, including most Jewish people.
I , myself , didn’t understand that baptism takes us all the way back to Genesis 1 .
I thought baptism was particularly “new testament” doctrine .
This is especially evident in the way that baptism is commonly perceived today.

On the other hand, if we return to the Bible, it’s another story.

Who were the first Baptists? They were Jews!
This would include Yochanan ben Zechariah, better known as John the Baptist.
It would also involve all the Jewish talmidim (disciples) of YAHushua
who subsequently baptized new believers.
Moreover, it goes all the way back into the Tanach* many centuries earlier.

There will be a separate Doc. with consideration to the present view of baptism .

One of the recurring themes of life is how things that are good by nature
become turned into something corrupted and distorted.
Such was the case with the beautiful relationship between God and Adam and Eve in the Garden
being broken because of sin.
Likewise, the long-promised coming of Messiah, when it actually occurred,
was twisted from a wonderful blessing into a perceived act of blasphemy
and a threat to the religious system of that day.

This was also true with some of the ways of worship and righteous living, including the act of baptism.
More will be presented in a following document , for those interested in pursuing this view .
This document will focus primarily on the principles and history of baptism or immersions .

The Biblical Principles of Baptism

Exodusthe historical foreshadowing


After the culmination of the story of Passover, the Israelites were released from slavery in Egypt. Exodus 14 tells about how Pharaoh changed his mind and his army pursued after them. When they reached the Red Sea, Moses worked a miracle and parted the waters.
The people followed God’s pillar of fire that was leading them and then we are told:
( Ex. 14:29)

“But the sons of Israel walked on dry land through the midst of the sea,
and the waters were like a wall to them on their right hand and on their left.”

At this point I want to introduce the word Mikveh
Mikveh is the gathering together of any waters
where any form of washing or passing through
is considered an act of cleansing and sanctification.

The term arises from the creation account when God gathered the waters and separated the land from the sea. From this springs the idea that in all acts of Mikveh there is a separation made by the water.
It is said when the children passed through the Red Sea on the way to the promised land
and were thus separated and sanctified unto Moses from Egyptian defilement, that this was a mikveh.
The passing through the waters of the Red Sea is called a mikveh by Jews.
Scripture speaks of numerous things that make a person “tomeh” – ritually unclean, defiled
and a number of processes of purification.
The one act required in all purification processes was immersion or “mikvah”.

The earliest biblical usage of the specific word “mikveh” is found in Genesis 1:9
where God called for the collection of the waters during the creation week.
We will look further into mikveh later , at this time however , I think we need to look at one of the controversial , and to many a contradictory point of new testament scripture .

Heb 6:2 – KJV -King James

Of the doctrine of baptisms,
and of laying on of hands, and of resurrection of the dead, and of eternal judgment.

Heb 6:2 – NASB – New American Standard

of instruction about washings
and laying on of hands, and the resurrection of the dead and eternal judgment.

Eph 4:5

One Lord, one faith, one baptism,At first glance, this might seem to be a contradiction in Scripture.
But remember the word “baptisms” is plural in the Hebrew passage,
while it is singular in the passage in Ephesians.
This is due, in part, to the fact that there are different words used in these two passages.

Strong’s Number: g907 Greek: baptizo – Verb

Strong’s Number: g908 Greek: baptisma – Noun

Strong’s Number: g909 Greek: baptismos – Noun

Strong’s Number:
g910 Greek: baptistes – Noun

In Hebrews the word is “baptismos”, g909
which is normally used for “washings” or “purifications”
of which the initial immersion which accompanies faith is but one of many .

In Ephesians, the word used is “baptizma” g908
which refers primarily to the act of baptism.
Paul is speaking of unity in the body, and the context indicates
he is referring to the thing that identifies all believers as belonging together.

Here in Ephesians , Paul is referring to one of the many immersions  –
this one in particular beingthe immersion into Messiah,
which we read about in Romans 6:3-4 among other places.

Rom 6:4

Therefore we are buried with him by baptism G908 into death: that like as Christ was raised up from the dead by the glory of the Father, even so we also should walk in newness of life.”baptism,” consisting of the processes of immersion into , submersion under , and emergence from
(from bapto, “to dip”)

used of the sufferings Messiah’s followers would experience,
not of a vicarious character,
but in actual fellowship with the sufferings of their Master.
It is used in Mark 10:38, 39

But Jesus said unto them, Ye know not what ye ask: can ye drink of the cup that I drink of?
and be baptized with the baptism that I am baptized with?

And they said unto him, We can. And Jesus said unto them, Ye shall indeed drink of the cup that I drink of; and with the baptism that I am baptized withal shall ye be baptized:

Some mss. have the word in
Mathew 20:22, 23;
Mat 20:22

But Jesus answered and said, Ye know not what ye ask. Are ye able to drink of the cup that I shall drink of, and to be baptized with the baptism that I am baptized with? They say unto him, We are able.

Mat 20:23

And he saith unto them, Ye shall drink indeed of my cup, and be baptized with the baptism that I am baptized with: but to sit on my right hand, and on my left, is not mine to give, but it shall be given to them for whom it is prepared of my Father.Do you remember the word mikveh ?
Well, let’s see if we can figure out where we get the connection between mikvah and baptism.
The Hebrew word for immersion is tevilah and means literally, “to totally immerse”
It is used specifically to refer to immersion in a mikvah
The closest word in Greek for tevilah is baptidzo.
Baptidzo is derived from the industry of dying cloth in Lebanon.

It carries the connotation of something being immersed into a liquid,
so that the thing immersed takes on the characteristics of that which it is immersed into,
such as cloth into dye or leather into tanning solution.
Baptidzo g907 is where we get our word “baptism”.

We have to realize that John the Baptizer g910 didn’t simply have a heat stroke in the Judean desert
and suddenly invent the idea of baptism in his delirium .
Apparently it was something they were familiar with.
Notice that John was not suspect, by anyone, as to where he received the doctrine,
nor did anyone question the validity of the teaching.
Never did anyone ask him why was he immersing.
They all seemed to accept the teaching, even in light of Deuteronomy 4:2, and 12:32
stating that the Word could not be added to , or taken away from , without dire results to anyone who did .
Why do you think this is?
It is because the concept of ceremonial washings is as old as the Torah itself.

The mikvah/ritual bath was of great importance to the first century Jew.
Any passing through waters of separation  by any means of cleansing is called a mikveh.
How important was the mikveh ?
It was understood that if a community or village
had only enough money for a synagogue or a mikvah,
the mikvah would be built first.
In this time and culture, this was a critical part of life in the daily routine of Jewish religious society.
The mikvah took precedence over the temple !

Join with me for part 2 of this series .
Shalom .


Mysteries of the Morning Dew and Hidden Manna (part 1)

Must read …

The E-Pistle: Fresh Manna in the Morning Dew w/ Grateful Doug

Mysteries of the Morning Dew and Hidden Manna (part 1)

To begin this new blog I’d like to start unraveling a mystery with numerous revelatory layers. What is this strange metaphor that literally happened in real time as the children of Israel made their sojourn from being bond slaves in Egypt into becoming a free people in the Promised Land?

What actually sustained the Hebrew nation during their 40 year long trek through the wilderness? A fresh supply of dew and manna was provided every day to supernaturally nourish them as they wandered across that dusty and dangerous desert terrain toward Canaan.

More significantly, why are these Old Testament elements relevant to New Covenant believers in this day and age? What exactly do they signify?  I pray the Spirit of God will open this up to you!

1 Corinthians 10
1 For I do not want you to be unaware…

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